Crying

Very few people enjoy crying. Most people try to keep from crying at almost any cost! Crying, however, is a very powerful balancing tool.

When we cry from need, we open our inner self to purge out feeling of loss, grief, and pain. These emotions or feelings (loss, grief, and pain) need to be released. If not released, these emotions will clog the pipes of the life-force within us. Too much of any of these emotions and we become stuck in negative thinking and life-limiting actions.   [continued below picture]

On the other hand, crying from self-pity does not have the same effect. Crying from self-pity actually anchors feelings of loss, grief and pain into your life.

So how do you tell the difference? It’s easy. Crying as a release is overwhelming. It comes on quickly and when you have completed the crying cycle you feel a sense of relief even if for a short time. Some people have learned how to stem the crying tide and stop the tears from flowing, but even if that, they usually cry later, when they are alone. And the same ideas will apply at that time.

Crying used as a self-pity machine has no sense of relief when it is over. In fact, one usually feels even worse when done crying in this way. Also, this type of crying doesn’t come on suddenly and is not felt as overwhelming. Usually it comes after a time of pitifully nursing feelings of grief, loss, or pain. (clue: laughing is absolutely the antidote to self-pity.)

This week: if you feel the need to cry, let yourself; then, assess if it is true healing crying, or self-pity crying. If it is the first, notice how crying helped you re-gain some sense of balance. If the second, ask yourself why you are holding on to self-pity.